All We Have is Now -What Death teaches us.

We, the human beings, the biggest creation of God, have lived and prospered with the times. We, the human beings have achieved pinnacles of success and successfully marched through evolution. We exist, we live, we rejoice this time on earth. But what is the result we obtain in the end? Do we even realise that our entire existence sustains on the foundation of Time. More precisely, this moment.

A day will come when we will become memories of the past. In the long run, we will die.

Do we get to take with us the money in the bank account or the luxurious bungalow we built after dying? Do we get to take with us the jewellery we accumulated? Do we get to take with us the good times or even the hardships?

Nothing.

Foremost, what we humans tend to forget is that we are here for a short span of time. A short span of time that has already been decided. It could be 60 years or even 60 days! I may be now. I may not be the next moment. You may have your beloved one this moment. You may see the same beloved one, on the pyre, burning down in ashes. Do you feel the uncertainty of life yet? When we are alive, we tend to push everything and everyone away. We even don’t realise how someone’s presence has made all the difference in our life. Can you even imagine someone’s absence whom you love like no one?

You were supposed to meet the one you love on a Sunday. You had decided to tell everything your heart had for them. You had decided to pour everything out you’d so safely kept inside you. That Sunday, you were at their place, that loved one was not! Now you live with the everything you kept with an added burden of regret.

The regret, that you could not make upto the one you loved. You find yourself in a hurricane of regret that will ghost you throughout your life. A solution? Say what you feel. Say all of it. Never keep it within you. Otherwise it’ll haunt you for the rest of your existence. Show as much love you have for that person when he/she is with you. Show them what you really feel for them.

The most important thing that you must not forget.

A person might have left you and gone. But your journey in a relationship with that person never ends. There are three people in a relationship- you, the person you lost and the relationship itself. Nurture the relationship even if the one you have loved has gone.

Death is the biggest certainty of life which needs to be accepted with both arms opened. Life has its numbers. It is death what gives you actual salvation. All we have is now! This is your moment. Shout what you feel. Go tell your mom and dad how much you love them. Go tell your friends you’d never imagined your life without them. Go tell your grandparents that how important their life lessons and bed stories are to you. Go tell your siblings that how much you may fight, love forms the foundation of your relationship. Go tell the teacher who shouted at you and genuinely carved a remarkable person out of you.

Friend, life is a bed of uncertainties. Jump in with the certainties to conquer it.

Don’t forget, all you have is now.

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The Pedestrian Crossing- Part 3

Part 3

“We did create a monster out of an innocent child.”

I say this to one of my friends who has an amazing story line. She used to cry and crib on the minutest things. People used to come and slam her down on her face. She did not utter a word. She did not say anything even if they did the most wrong things in the world. One day, she cried miserably. We had a conversation and I calmed her down. A lot of conversations brought her to a realization that she had been doing it all wrong. She had been afraid of the circumstances that were already under her control. She self-realized and started loving herself. I am sometimes shocked today the way she deals with ruthlessness. She has already become a pro at it. What did it lead her to? It led her to something which is very important for every pedestrian to cross the Street.

Self- Discovery.

She discovered a whole new self. She discovered that she had potential like no one. She realized that her abilities could do wonders. But, why is self- realization important for you and me?

It may happen that you are a 30+ adult who sits on his desk every day at the job and is not contended. Situations and people forced you to do the job you never wanted to. You always cribbed and complained about the circumstances at your job. It did not give you happiness. It didn’t give you satisfaction. It just gave you the income to run your family. That’s your opinion. My opinion says that there is no one as strong as you. If you are 30 something, and you have been doing this job you might have just discovered so much about yourself! And you have been oblivious of it till now. You have developed resilience. You have worked against the circumstances. You have lived through all of it. You have dealt with BMW’s aka circumstances (Part 1 reference) just like Hulk fights in the Marvel movies. Didn’t you?

But there is more to it. You need to love yourself, to discover yourself. You might be an 18 something human being figuring out their career. You are not happy with what you are doing. You are confused of everything that’s going on in your life. Aren’t you? But don’t you think it’s important to wander to find ourselves? The true selves, our true potentials are hidden. We have to be the true wanderers to figure it out. This phase of life teaches you almost every day. And by every day I mean, BMW’s crushing you every day. EVERY DAY. You have always lived on your own terms. And trust me, if you are lost now, you’ll find the right direction really soon! After all, not all those you wander are lost.

Self discovery makes you believe in the fact that you can achieve anything in this world. It brings home the fact that we are beyond our own capabilities. It ushers a new ray of hope. Remember your childhood days. Your dad used to hold your cycle from the back so that you did not fall. He used to leave it and then it was YOU who used to ride the cycle. You knew your dad was having your back. But who did the wonders actually? It was you. You believed. You discovered. You won.

The same goes with your life. It’s not always important that things go your way. Life does not give you, what you want. It gives you what is the best for you. You can’t cross the pedestrian crossing without realizing that those BMW’s aka circumstances exist to make your journey a beautiful one.

Till then, relish in what you have. Let go what pulls you back.

-G.

To be continued.

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The Pedestrian Crossing- Part 1

 

Part 1

I open my eyes.

To my surprise, I find myself in a street. I stand across the street where people are continuously rushing and crossing each other. There are multiple vehicles crossing each other. I observe a lot of hustle and bustle around me. I am jeopardized of how I reached here. There is a lady who approaches me and says,”Child, you are supposed to cross the street.” I listen to her but somewhere I am afraid what if one of the BMW’s or Ferrari’s or Porsche’s hit me hard! I may have a fatal accident. What if I am not able to make it up to the other side of the street? Maybe the lady fathomed, what I had been thinking about!

“There you have the pedestrian crossing waiting for you, to cross over. You’ll have a number of people with you who’ll be crossing you by your side. They’ll be number of people who will be required to cross this street. You have to cover this distance. All alone!You might cover the distance in quiet sometime but it feels like you just blinked your eyes. Be careful! Good luck!” she said.

Then she left. She left me gazing under my feet the White and Black Pedestrian Lines.

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It might just seem as an everyday routine. Crossing from One Street to the other. Lots of Pedestrians do that every day. But wait! Is there something more to it? What if I say that the way you are living currently is walking through that pedestrian crossing? I mean your birth was the starting point and your death will be where you are supposed to reach. In between, what you call life is basically a pedestrian crossing. you might be looking towards left and right; afraid to take the next step forward! Oh! Yes. In this very moment, you are at a certain point of your life. You might be hopeful or hopeless; happy or sad; optimist or pessimist. But in this very moment, you are crossing as a pedestrian to reach the other side of the Street. And it is a continuous process.

To make it simple, the distance gap between your Birth and Death is “This Pedestrian Crossing”. You would have to cover the gap on your own. Some of us, on this planet feel as if this distance takes too much from us. But it does give a lot! A lot which is the best for us. The circumstances that hit us are the BMW’s or the Porsche’s that we are afraid of.

Here in, I try to figure out the techniques of Art of Crossing the Pedestrian of Life.

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THE HARBINGER OF SUCCESS

You might one day, find yourself, sitting in an arm-chair at the age of 60. Contemplating and re-thinking all the wrong choices you made in life with a cup of hot cappuccino held tight. The Roads you did not take!* Robert Frost just wrote something so relatable.* The job opportunities you kicked on! The words you wished to say but a certain fear held you back.The trips you missed. The time you were not there for your beloved ones. The career choices you made.  You did not look right or left and continuously were hit by circumstances right in your face.

But, hey there! What is the guarantee that you’ll be alive by 60? What is the assurance that you’ll get to re-think then? Is it possible to make so-called plans for the most uncertain future? Will you be in any position then to come back to the exact pedestrian crossing?

But, in this very moment, trust me; the entire universe is waiting for you. The universe is waiting for your command.

Sit, relax and think! Are you in the best mind frame? Did you kick out the job opportunity that was necessary to you?  Are you happy with yourself? Are you doing justice to yourself? Are you following your passion? Are you satisfied? Is this pedestrian crossing taking you towards the correct way?

There can be a multitude of questions that I may raise. But these few questions would give you a blessing in disguise. The blessing in disguise is the harbinger of your success

Self Realization!

I realize that I am not doing what I was supposed to do. I realize that I am not being myself. The day you realize your shortcomings, all by yourself, that is the day, my friend! That is the day; you’ll take Step Number 1 towards your success. It might look weird but those very circumstances you are afraid of will teach you and lead you towards the opposite street. You’ll realize that you are not supposed to dim your light to make someone else comfortable and happy. Along with you, there are people, crossing the same street, through the same pedestrian crossing. Befriend them; you are a social being after all. Don’t make them your shelter. Self realization of the fact that you are currently in a stationary position in your life will guide you. Self realization will make you fearless of all the bad circumstances you are afraid of! You’ll be ready to face them like a boss. And trust me; you’ll discover a whole new person in you. You’ll find all the hidden potentials that even you were unaware of.

That’s the magic of Self realization after all. It liberates you of all your shortcomings and makes you a better version of yourself.

-G.

To be continued.

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